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“Paths to Power”: Some Clarifications


In this post I want to cover several things:

1. Meditation Practice vs. the Sitting Still Practice as it is described in the book “Paths to Power”.

2. How you can know you are connected to the Universal Creative Power or God (hint: through the way you feel).

3. How you can really achieve what you want.

In fact this post will bring together different pieces so you will be able to see the whole picture.

Let’s start from meditation.

Meditation is not a light topic to go briefly through it. Meditation requires a thorough coverage but most importantly it requires practice. You can learn about thousands meditation techniques that exist out there and still get nowhere if you don’t practice it daily.

One can practice meditation in different ways. The key is letting go of all thoughts and becoming mindful of the moment, fully present. Feeling present and fully aware means having no fear, no worries, no anxiety.

It is a state of feeling connected, feeling that everything is indeed perfect in your life; it’s a feeling of what I call “silent, quiet happiness” when you just allow yourself to be. It’s when you have full trust in God knowing that you are taken care of. It can also be associated with feeling of deep Gratitude for everything you have.

As a matter of fact, Gratitude has an immense power of connecting us to God and Universe. Gratitude is so powerful that it requires a separate post of its own. Just contemplate on the concept of gratitude when you have time and you’ll be able to discover its amazing power.

Let’s now consider the “sitting still” practice. Here is its essence as described by Floyd B. Wilson in the book “Paths to Power”:

First, then, learn to sit and be still physically. Select an hour in the day or evening - a full hour, and just an hour, when you can be free from interruptions, and take that same hour each day, and no other.

Sit in the same chair, and in the same room. Having relaxed, you may fold your hands or let both of them rest in your lap, and then keep still.

Sit with both feet resting on the floor; let the chair be of height to permit this. With both feet resting on the floor, a right angle should be formed at the knee. Next, be careful that the spinal column be kept erect-there is a fluid passing through it to the base of the brain, with which your thought has everything to do.

In a lying down posture this fluid presses against the base of the brain; and, if concentration is attempted in that position, it will be found exceedingly difficult to sustain it.

Knowing now the position to take, and the absolute requirement of coming to these sittings the same hour each day, you are ready to commence your work. Knowledge can only come to you from the Infinite when you are still.

Of course, it may come in a moment of stillness, when you are sitting listlessly; but the discipline herein proposed is to put yourself consciously into an attitude to draw that power and force.

The book concentrates on the attainment of our desires and the first part of it is to clear the mind and then comes the second part when you contemplate on what you want till you have the feeling of KNOWING -which is very profound feeling and people who experienced it know what I am talking about.

It is when you just KNOW that something that you want will come true without any physical signs of it coming into your life yet.

This is the feeling the Floyd B. Wilson urges us to develop when he suggests the “sitting still” practice.

This is what he says about “keeping still”:

By keeping still, I mean that you do not stir. If stray hairs seem to fall over your face and tickle, you must learn not to move your hand to brush them away.

It is not an easy practice as it may seem because the more you concentrate of NOT doing something the MORE of it you will want to do.

If you keep saying to yourself “DO NOT move” – you, in fact, will have an irresistible desire to move – all of the sudden your posture is not comfortable or you will urgently feel a need to scratch your nose, for example.

That’s why I suggest that you practice a regular meditation. The sitting posture described in the book is excellent starting position but instead of concentrating on the stillness of the body just pay attention to your breath – inhale, exhale – notice your breath.

Close your eyes and pay attention to your inhales and exhales for 15-20 minutes. With time you will learn how to sit STILL without any effort.

You can also repeat a MANTRA in your mind. There shouldn’t be any effort or concentration involved. Here is what the book says about it:

Do not concentrate too deeply. It is a concentration akin to passiveness which I am suggesting.

You can also practice Yogic breathing exercises to clear your mind. Here is what the book says about it:

All well-directed breathing exercises harmonize the system and fit you mentally for the more serious work. One of Yogic breathing exercises: inhale deeply through the left nostril, centering thought on the nerve current, or spinal column, as if you were sending your breath through it so that it may strike (mentally) on the last plexus, which yogi call the seat of the Kundalini.

Then hold for a short time, and exhale slowly through the right nostril. This practice is conducive to repose or rest. If you have tired nerves, it will calm them down so that such peacefulness will come, that you will feel you have never before known what rest meant.

Practice Yogic breathing exercise or Pranayama. See the Yoga and Spirituality post for more details on Yoga. Practice regular meditation 20 minutes twice a day everyday. You really need to do this regularly for 2-3 months to feel the difference.

Afterwards you will be ready to “listen to your inner voice”, to feel connected with your Higher Self and hence to have that feeling of KNOWING of what you want to achieve/attract is as real as the reality you see right in front you at the present moment.

There are different ways to achieve it. Another way is self-hypnosis that I provided in great details in the self-hypnosis mini-course.

If you haven’t read the “Paths to Power” I would suggest that you subscribe and receive the book. Then, you would need to read it several times till the concept becomes clear to you. Afterwards you need to practice.

You would also want to subscribe to the blog updates e-mail notification (see the RSS “subscribe by e-mail” button) this way you will be notified when a new post will be published.

To summarize the steps of attaining what you want:

First, find out what your deep inner desires are, what you really want – see the Goal-Achievement Course part I and then apply the techniques described in this post and in the book to clear your mind and improve your connection with your own self and God so you will develop the feeling of KNOWING.

The practice of Gratitude is another important way to connect with your Higher Self and Universe. I’ll cover it in another post.

After that you are ready to take an ACTION to bring what you want into your life - knowledge is power but without taking an action nothing will happen.

I had an urge to write this article seeing how yoga is being degraded to simple flexibility training and how yoga’s popularity is being used to sell practically anything from Absolut vodka to underwear.

Yoga and Spirituality are inseparable. Yoga is an ancient teaching that helps the persistent practitioner to achieve the spiritual enlightment. By no means it consists of a set of exercise routine only.

Yoga is comprehensive system, a way of thinking, a way of living our everyday lives. Physical postures or Asanas and breathing exercises or Pranayama that are so popular on the West are just steps 3 and 4 of Raja yoga, which is one of the yogic paths’ to spiritual development.

There are 7 steps in Raja Yoga leading the practitioner to self-realization. These steps are described in the book of the sage Patanjali “The Yoga Sutras”. You can download it for free on this page.

Yoga played an important role in my life providing insights and answering the numerous questions that I had hard time to find answers to.

The Eastern occultism entered my life when I was 20 years old. I was lucky enough to find the book of Mabel Collins “Light on the path and through the gates of gold” in the country where the books on spirituality and religion were not published. Read the details on the Yoga page. You can also download the “Light on the path” for free.

Yoga personally helped me in a variety of ways - from improving my intuition to losing weight.

How to combine the simple Western Yoga practice with Yoga as a spiritual development tool?

It is not as hard as you might think. Here are some steps, simplified:

1. Do not lie, cheat, take advantage of other people or harm others in any way in your everyday life.

Stop habits that are damaging for you; stop harming and sabotaging yourself in any way.

Change your habitual negative thinking into positive the positive one. See some tips in the Techniques to Help You Think Positively article.

Stop judging people, you are no better than they are. As you go further in your practice you will realize deeply the concept of Oneness of all life so this will become easier for you.

2. Limit the stimulants intake such as coffee, alcohol, etc and at some point try to eliminate them completely. They deplete the body of vital energy and exhaust the body. Eat vegetarian diet that provides body with energy, include whole grains in your diet, drink lots of water daily. Do fasting once a week at least 3-6 months during the year.

See the the article entitled Fasting and Weight Loss. Even though it is entitled Fasting and Weight Loss it contains general information on how to fast.

3. Practice Yogic Asanas regularly.

4. Practice Yogic breathing exercises (Pranayama) regularly.

I am in the process of finishing my yoga video and manual. It will be available here for download shortly. It includes Asanas and Pranayama.

5. Meditate twice a day for 20 minutes – in the morning and in the afternoon. You can do twice a day 20 minutes mantra meditation which is a silent repetition of a word or phrase to clear your mind. Use mantra OM for example, which is the Universal sound of creation.

If you think you don’t have time to meditate do the Mindfulness meditation – be present every second of your life.


These are first 5 steps. These steps are enough to bring vibrant health, clarity of mind, happiness and peace into your life. The devoted spiritual seeker then can go further.

If you haven’t done this yet, visit the Yoga page page for more details on Yoga.

The concept of positive thinking is not new. It became especially well-known recently with the popularization of the Law of Attraction through the book and movie “The Secret”.

While positive thinking leads to better health and being satisfied with life, it is not always easy to think positively.

Here are some tips to help you think positively:

1. One of the things that affect the way we feel is relaxation. Lack of relaxation during the day and not getting enough sleep at night are direct ways to feeling down, depressed and negative.

If you have problems falling asleep or remaining asleep consider natural methods that induce sleep before you start taking pills.

Sleep well is all about natural ways to get good sleep at night and feel energized and positive throughout the day.

Some tips in order to sleep well:

Do not eat after 7 p.m;
Do not watch TV late at night or read thrillers;
Try to go to bed around 10-11 p.m;
Drink herbal teas around 8-9 p.m. such as chamomile tea,
Use lavender essential oil in a burner or take a bath with few drops of the lavender essential oil
If you can’t fall asleep do not force yourself. Get out of bed and do some boring chores that will help you fall asleep.

2. Another way to stay positive is to exercise.

Here are simple exercises that will help you improve your mood:

- Bring your shoulders to your ears and then let them drop. Keep your hands by your sides. Repeat 5- 10 times.

- Bring your shoulder blades together as much as possible, hold for 5-10 seconds and release. Repeat this 5-10 times.

- Bring your chin parallel to the ground. Clasp your hands and place them under your chin. Now push your chin against your hands. Do not allow your chin go down. Hold for 5 seconds. Repeat 5-10 times.

3. Diet also plays an important role in how you feel. For example, foods containing certain amino-acids can help improve your mood. Getting enough of vitamin B complex vitamins and Omega-3 fatty acids can also contribute to positive thinking.

4. Some other ways of letting go of stress and tension and all the negativity associated with them and feel rejuvenated are dancing, getting a massage, aromatherapy wraps, progressive muscles relaxation with visualization exercises or self-hypnosis, meditation, breathing exercises, color therapy.

Body and mind cannot be separated. Healthy body promotes positive thinking; in its turn positive thinking promotes better health. By developing positive thinking you will be able to improve substantially all areas of your life.

Additional resources:
Learn self-hypnosis to achieve success in everything
Sleep well
Hypnosis for everything
Comprehensive Hypnosis Program

I initially published this in a slightly modified form as a two-part article on the Ezinearticles website so don’t be surprised if you already read it on their site…

From the early childhood we were told what is good and what is bad. To avoid punishment and all the nasty things that come with it we had to hide some parts of ourselves that didn’t fit into the description of a “good person” with “good manners” as it is accepted in our society. These traits are usually so well hidden that we totally forget about their existence.

But the “bad” character traits didn’t disappear; instead they were pushed deep into our subconscious mind and started having a life of their own. They have a tremendous power of attracting people and situations in our lives that show us the qualities that we try to deny in ourselves.

This concept can be found in various teachings around the world in different forms from the Jungian principle of “shadow” to Hawaiian healing process called ho’oponopono.

By not embracing our whole self we waste the valuable life energy. We are trying to prove through our entire life that we are not who we really, in fact, are.

Denying parts of ourselves and not knowing who we really are is a direct way to self-destructive behaviors.

Do you feel you keep attracting “wrong” people into your life? They are brought into your life by your shadow to show you a quality that you have in yourself but venomously deny. People, situations in our life, our whole life the way it is right now are just mirrors that reflect back who we really are.

The process of embracing our “shadow”, the negative aspects of ourselves as part of ourselves helps to heal us, make us whole. It also stops the appearance of “wrong” people and circumstances in our lives; ones that are trying to show us a quality inside ourselves we needed to make a peace with.

We usually become interested in this process when patterns start repeating in our lives and we want to know why they happen.

When we start seeing patterns and asking questions then we are ready to meet with the well-forgotten part of ourselves, our shadow. This is not an easy process and it takes time to go through but the end result is the complete liberation; seeing our choices clearer, making peace with who we are, our past and our present, and moving quickly towards realization of our deepest desires.

Hawaiian healing process (ho’oponopono) is similar to the Jungian concept of “shadow”. It states that we are responsible for everything in our life, even the other people’s behavior. The mere acceptance and love of ourselves with all the positive and negative traits are enough to rectify the situation: people can change around us, circumstances change, our entire world changes merely by changing ourselves, our perception of the world.

In order “to change” the world around us we just need to say to ourselves: “I love you”, “I am sorry”, “Please forgive me”, “Thank you”. This kind of healing is conducted by a healer in Hawaii, Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, with miraculous results.

When you have a strong negative emotional response about people around you look for the answers inside you.

So next time when you ask yourself : “Why all these idiots are in my life?” remember all the situations when you were acting like an idiot. Embrace the fact that you can also be an idiot from time to time. This way you will stop seeing “what’s wrong” with other people and stop judging them. You will also make a peace with a part of yourself you always denied.

Accepting the denied parts of yourself doesn’t mean going and hurting the people around. It is a way to free up the energy that was trapped when you were trying to be someone you are not; it is an incredible liberating experience; it is a way of allowing yourself to be who you are, to love and accept yourself fully and completely so you will be able to realize your full potential.

The same is true for “bad” people who for whatever traumatic reason denied the positive traits and buried them deeply into their psyche. This process will help them experience a tremendous transformation and make peace with their past; it will allow them to become whole again.

Everything starts with love. Love is the white light of all emotions. White light is the combination of all colors. Love is the sum of all emotions. Start loving and accepting yourself the way you are and then you will slowly uncover how to make peace with yourself, your past and your present; how to forgive and be forgiven; how to embrace all parts of yourslef, good and bad, let go of judgments and become whole again.

I discovered this incredible video about a week ago. Talented people all around the world playing and singing together!

No matter who we are, where we live and what we do - we are just humans living together on this beautiful planet. And if we stand by one another instead of fighting each other we would heal this planet and the humanity in whole.

I hope you will enjoy this video!



From Concord Music Group on Vimeo.

I decided to write about chakras because this invisible to “regular” human eye centers play an important role in our well-being. They are affected with our lifestyle - what we eat, our exercising habits, what we think and life we lead in general. Our negative thoughts contaminate the chakras so energy flow becomes disrupted and we feel low on energy.

If we persist in holding negative thoughts our body will eventually become physically ill. This will not happen overnight but sooner or later we will see the negative affects of our thoughts on the physical body. They usually manifest in different forms and might include from minor aches and pains to serious diseases such as cancer.

Energy flow in the body is also disrupted by holding negative emotions inside. Emotions such as anger, fear, grudges, jealousy and others if not released properly in a healthy way, sooner or later manifest as illness in different parts of the body.

That’s why it is important to do emotional releases and clear the negative thoughts. Exercise can help release the energy blockages in the body however it doesn’t last for a long time as soon as we return to our old ways of thinking energy blockages occur again.

Positive affirmations can also be helpful in the short run but they do not usually have lasting effect. In order for affirmations to work they need to be repeated in a deeply relaxed, hypnotic state. Self-hypnosis, in general is an important skill to learn. Click here for a program that I recommend. You can also do deep chakra clearing in a hypnotic state.

Chakras are energetic centers of the body. The word “chakra” comes from a Sanskrit word meaning wheel. Chakra system is pretty complicated system – energy centers are run throughout the body. The seven chakras that located along the spine are the major chakras of the body.

They are connected to the endocrine system, the central nervous system, and the spine. Each of them has a color, a sound, a specific location in the body and affects specific organs. They are keys to energy healing and serve as pathways transmitting light and universal life force energy to the physical body.

Research has demonstrated that health, wellness and energy healing of our physical body are largely determined by the strength and clarity of this subtle energy field.

Seven Chakras in brief:

The Root or Base Chakra
Color Association: Red
Sanskrit Name: Muladhara
Location: Base of spine, coccyx
Imbalances include anemia, fatigue, lower back pain, sciatica, depression, frequent colds or cold hands and cold feet.

The Sacral Chakra
Color Association: Orange
Sanskrit Name: Svadhisthana
Location: Below the navel, lower abdomen
Imbalances: Eating disorders, alcohol and drug abuse, depression, lower back pain, asthma or allergies, Candida and yeast infections, urinary problems, sensuality issues as well as impotency and frigidity.

The Solar Plexus Chakra
Color Association: Yellow
Sanskrit Name: Manipura
Location: Above the navel, stomach area
Imbalances: Digestive problems, ulcers, diabetes, hypoglycemia, constipation, nervousness, toxicity, parasites, colitis, poor memory.

The Heart Chakra
Color Association: Green
Sanskrit Name: Anahata
Location: Center of chest
Imbalances: Heart and breathing disorders, breast cancer, chest pain, high blood pressure, passivity, immune system problems, muscular tension.

The Throat Chakra
Color Association: Blue
Sanskrit Name: Vishuddha
Location: Throat region
Imbalances: Thyroid imbalances, swollen glands, fevers and flu, infections, mouth, jaw, tongue, neck and shoulders problems, hyperactivity, hormonal disorders such as PMS, mood swings, bloating and menopause.

The Brow or Third Eye Chakra
Color Association: Indigo
Sanskrit Name: Ajna
Location: Forehead, in between the eyes.
Imbalances: Learning disabilities, co-ordination problems, sleep disorders.

The Crown Chakra
Colour Association: Violet
Sanskit Name: Sahasrara
Location: Top of head
Crown Stimulants: Focusing on dreams. Writing down one’s visions and inventions. Violet food & drink. Violet gemstones and violet clothing. Using violet oils such as lavender or jasmine essential oils.
Imbalances: Depression

Now when you are familiar with the locations and colors of major chakras, apply the self-hypnosis technique to relax deeply and then start mentally scanning your chakras starting with the Root Chakra; visualize the colors corresponding to each chakra and feel how energy flows from chakra to chakra reaching the top of the head.

Do this process slowly so you will vividly visualize the colors and feel the flow of energy.

You will feel revitalized after this exercise.

Appreciate your life… How many times did you hear that? It doesn’t seem to be fully understood. People go through their lives like they are on this planet for the Eternity.

Non-forgiveness, grudges, making someone’s life miserable, inability to let go… Who you really think you hurt with these? Only you – your soul, your entire being, your life.

Are you enjoying your life right now? Do you live the life of your dream? Or do you, like many other people, postpone everything till tomorrow? Is there really tomorrow with all the diseases that can suddenly take the life and other “unexpected” events that can do the same?

Ask yourself – why, why you are not enjoying your life right now? What exactly inside you is blocking you from getting what you want NOW?

We all get our wake up calls – they are different for different people.

My friend died earlier this week. She wasn’t sick or anything, nobody was expecting her to die… A day before she prepared her lunch for the following day, as usual, and died the next morning from the heart attack.

She had so many plans that she wanted to accomplish… like many of us she was postponing things till later – till she has more money, more time, her son finally achieves what he needs to achieve, and many other excuses.

This was the third wake up call for me.

I wonder how many more do I need to finally look at my life and SEE EVERYTHING that needs to be changed RIGHT AWAY? How many more do I need to start LIVING? This is NOT a rehearsal, it’s all real. The time we WASTE is real; it’s part of the precious, limited time allotted to us.

Who am I? What do I know? Do I know the time that is left FOR ME? How can I plan even a day in advance?

The first wake up call for me was when my friend’s father whom I had seen a day before in excellent health, died in a matter of minutes form the heart attack. At that time I was too young to be deeply shaken. Now I am older when he was when he died…

My second wake-up call was related to the death of my daughter’s best friend’s aunt whom I never knew. It was couple of years ago. I experienced a deep grief and wrote a short story devoted to her that I included here:

“A tribute to unknown lady

I didn’t have an honour to know her. She was like you and I wandering through life year after year under the burden of more and more responsibilities. She had two sons in their 20s having their own interests and lives.

Life wasn’t always easy but with a little sense of humour everything was a bit easier. Like you and I she was postponing the best of her life for later, for some pleasant and unknown future.

She lived with a man she loved but they could hardly find time to talk. Like us they were working all day long and going back home tired, unable to conduct a quality conversation, to convey the feelings they had for each other, irritated by small and unimportant things.

She was an immigrant and constantly worried about her children living far away from her, in her home country. And frankly who doesn’t even if children live close?

The work she was doing was hard physical work. It wasn’t very easy for an immigrant woman in her late 40s to find a qualified job even if she had all the necessary credentials.

She was always tired but kept working in a hope that she’ll be able to save some money and one day will go back to her home country and join her sons and her elderly parents. Christmas came and passed but she couldn’t go to see her loved ones.

That particular day she left home early to be able to buy some clothes for her children and send to them. It was very slippery that day, she almost fell twice. Everything seemed too much - she finally made up her mind – she would go back to her country in two months. The extra two months would have given her a chance to save a little bit more money.

She never returned home that cold, slippery winter day. She was run over by a heavy truck while trying to cross the street on the pedestrian light.”

I don’t mean to make you sad. Really. My intention is to wake you up so you will SEE like I was forced to SEE.

Whatever we have is NOW. If we are unhappy now and hoping for happier future this is the greatest illusion possible.

Be happy today. You don’t need big things to be happy. Forgive someone you couldn’t forgive for the past 10 years, spend some time with your children, say your loved ones that you love them, smile at a stranger on the street, just stop and look around - no matter what you see – be it breathtaking beauty or a snowstorm with cold bones-penetrating wind – no matter what it is – it is YOUR CHOICE – enjoy it because this is what you have right now. This very precious moment is called life.

I wish you, my reader, a long life, filled with fulfillment of your wildest dreams; just make sure that you do not postpone your happiness and deep enjoyment of life till some unknown, illusionary time in the future.

BE HAPPY NOW!

For some people setting a goal is the hardest thing to do. The reason for that is because goal-setting is not something that is usually being taught at school.

What we usually learn is some skill and how to apply it to earn employment income. Usually we are not allowed much of creativity; all we need to do is just to follow books, learn everything they say, find a job, work till retirement and then in the best case scenario you might have some money saved and there might be few people who still care about you. That’s why it is so important to take charge of your own destiny.

First, you need to develop creative skills, for example, through hobbies that you deeply enjoy. This can help to expand your mind, your entire being into new territory and help you to find what you really want.

If you are a full-time employee and used to suppress all your deepest desires for many years it will be hard for you to do the “finding what you want” exercise. You really need to be “in the flow”, let the restrictive thinking go to open up to incredible opportunities around you that you don’t even notice with your existing mindset.

If you like dancing – an active, disco-type dancing for about 30 minutes will help you open up quickly and then you will be ready for the “finding what you want exercise”. Doing it with a friend will be even more fun and hence will further improve the flow of positive energy.

You need to do it regularly otherwise, if you are like me, one day of full-time job with all the office gossips and intricacies will kill all the creativity you managed to bring up to the surface.

When you feel that you are in the flow, take a piece of paper and answer the questions below. They don’t need to be perfect, just write whatever comes to your mind. The more you practice the more your subconscious mind will be on the task meaning the real deepest desires will finally show up on the piece of paper.

Start with easier questions – never ask yourself a question like “what do I really want?” – this question is too general and will bring you frustration only since you will have a hard time to answer it.

Some questions to help you get started:

“What is my favorite color? What is my favorite clothes’ style? Which clothes will look best on me? Why I don’t wear them?”

“Where I want to live? What kind of climate I prefer? Am I willing to study a new language and adapt to new culture? Am I comfortable where I live now? Do I complain too often about different things in my living environment? If yes, why I don’t change it? What’s holding me back?”

Remember whatever is holding you back is just an excuse – it will not withstand a serious scrutiny. Try to question every single excuse that you have. Again doing this with someone will help tremendously since we all are masters at justifying things. This is because very few people are comfortable with getting out of the comfort zone into uncertainty.

Some other questions:

“Is there anything I always wanted to do, to learn? What are they and why I am not doing/learning them? Are there any places I always wanted to visit?” If you answer yes, list the places to visit in the order of priority and find out how much it would cost you to travel – make sure you check consolidators prices for air travel and cheapest alternatives to stay that doesn’t sacrifice your safety. Traveling to your favorite destination might be much cheaper than you imagine.

More questions:

“Do I enjoy my living conditions? What would I improve? What is the ideal house for me to live?”
Describe in as many details as possible and try to feel it with all your senses. You can also do the visualizations in deeply relaxed, self-hypnotic state (see the self-hypnosis course for details).

Another set of questions

What do you eat regularly? Does it contribute to your health and well-being? What is your general eating pattern? What health problems do you have? Do you think it is related to your lifestyle? What can you do today that will contribute to your health and well-being? What natural non-intrusive therapies would you try to feel better?

Do you have a partner? Are you happy with your partner? If not, what changes you need to make to improve the situation? If you think the situation is impossible to repair why you continue to live with him/her?

Sorry for bringing this last part up but your happiness and happiness of people around you should be your priority. If you are both extremely unhappy you need to do something ASAP to improve the situation. The best way is, of course, to try to improve the relationship, if possible.

Imagine your perfect life. What you would like to do day after day? Won’t you get bored if you do the same old things every day? What would make your days exciting? What you will look forward every morning when you get out of bed?

Again imagine this in complete details, include all the feelings you would have – employ all your senses. Then visualize it in complete details in hypnotic, deeply relaxed state.

Do you like your job? Do you really enjoy your profession? Would you do it if you don’t get paid for it? If not, what it is you would like to do instead?

Here the honesty is very important. Nobody is forcing you to quit your job or to go to University to study something new. Just be honest with yourself – this is all that’s required.

The key is just to keep writing. Do this exercise once a week, if you can, each time trying to find more details; give more in-depth answers to your questions.

When you are satisfied with your list, you thing it is complete and include all the details of what you want to do re-write everything as a story in as much details as possible in the present tense. You should include all emotions, feelings and all your senses – touch, smell, etc. At this point do not be concerned with the “HOW to achieve it” part.

Now you can record your story and play it back while in deeply relaxed, hypnotic state. If you think you need to make some changes, something isn’t right in the scenery you imagined – then make all the changes till it is perfect for you. At this stage your task is to create your perfect life in your mind in all details and reinforce it through daily exercises.

The more frequently you will do this exercise the more insights you will get on how to achieve it and the more opportunities will come your way that will take you directly where you want to be.

If your goal is too big it is not impossible to achieve it quickly BUT do not expect it. Putting a time limit on it will create frustration, disappointment and complete abandonment of your dream.

Now you are probably asking – that’s it? There is the “action” part?
And you are perfectly right. Without an action on your part you will never receive it what you want. This is just the part one that is the preparation part and believe me this is the most important part. If done right it can lead you to your dream life, to complete satisfaction with everything you do and have.

First, let’s define what the motivation is.

Motivation is your inner drive to go out and do whatever it takes to achieve what you want. This sounds like it always comes from the inside. While this is how it should be sometimes our desire to do a particular thing strongly diminishes especially if it wasn’t so easy to do as it seemed to be in the beginning. As a result our motivation goes down.

While we know deep inside we need to continue in order to achieve our dream, our motivation is simply not there anymore. In cases like this there are different ways to bring our motivation back including looking for something or somebody from outside to motivate us and bring us back on track.

Here is a non-exhaustive list of some things to do to help you become motivated again.

1. Try to relax completely, engage in completely different activities for a day or two and don’t think about the work you’ve been doing for a while at all. Use different relaxation techniques. Do breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation (click here to see the free self-hypnosis course for more details), guided imagery meditations; start doing meditation. Meditation will help you to stay in touch with your inner self so you will never feel depressed again. You can also get a massage or take a bath with relaxing essential oils.

2. You can also bring your motivation back by reading stories about people just like you who achieved incredible heights despite all the odds being stacked against them. Find stories about people who successfully implemented what you are trying to do now. This way you will know that you are not the only one on this road: people succeeded before you so you can succeed too.

Read biographies of famous people especially those who achieved everything through perseverance and never giving up. You can also listen to motivational speakers. Buy CDs, upload them into your mp3 player so you can listen to them anytime you want.

3. Find people who can support you in achieving your goals. This category might include your close ones, friends, a group you might join, Internet forum or a life-skills coach.

Whenever you find that you don’t have motivation to continue something that you know is important to continue, try to use one of the motivation tips above for success.