Be Happy Now

Appreciate your life… How many times did you hear that? It doesn’t seem to be fully understood. People go through their lives like they are on this planet for the Eternity.

Non-forgiveness, grudges, making someone’s life miserable, inability to let go… Who you really think you hurt with these? Only you – your soul, your entire being, your life.

Are you enjoying your life right now? Do you live the life of your dream? Or do you, like many other people, postpone everything till tomorrow? Is there really tomorrow with all the diseases that can suddenly take the life and other “unexpected” events that can do the same?

Ask yourself – why, why you are not enjoying your life right now? What exactly inside you is blocking you from getting what you want NOW?

We all get our wake up calls – they are different for different people.

My friend died earlier this week. She wasn’t sick or anything, nobody was expecting her to die… A day before she prepared her lunch for the following day, as usual, and died the next morning from the heart attack.

She had so many plans that she wanted to accomplish… like many of us she was postponing things till later – till she has more money, more time, her son finally achieves what he needs to achieve, and many other excuses.

This was the third wake up call for me.

I wonder how many more do I need to finally look at my life and SEE EVERYTHING that needs to be changed RIGHT AWAY? How many more do I need to start LIVING? This is NOT a rehearsal, it’s all real. The time we WASTE is real; it’s part of the precious, limited time allotted to us.

Who am I? What do I know? Do I know the time that is left FOR ME? How can I plan even a day in advance?

The first wake up call for me was when my friend’s father whom I had seen a day before in excellent health, died in a matter of minutes form the heart attack. At that time I was too young to be deeply shaken. Now I am older when he was when he died…

My second wake-up call was related to the death of my daughter’s best friend’s aunt whom I never knew. It was couple of years ago. I experienced a deep grief and wrote a short story devoted to her that I included here:

“A tribute to unknown lady

I didn’t have an honour to know her. She was like you and I wandering through life year after year under the burden of more and more responsibilities. She had two sons in their 20s having their own interests and lives.

Life wasn’t always easy but with a little sense of humour everything was a bit easier. Like you and I she was postponing the best of her life for later, for some pleasant and unknown future.

She lived with a man she loved but they could hardly find time to talk. Like us they were working all day long and going back home tired, unable to conduct a quality conversation, to convey the feelings they had for each other, irritated by small and unimportant things.

She was an immigrant and constantly worried about her children living far away from her, in her home country. And frankly who doesn’t even if children live close?

The work she was doing was hard physical work. It wasn’t very easy for an immigrant woman in her late 40s to find a qualified job even if she had all the necessary credentials.

She was always tired but kept working in a hope that she’ll be able to save some money and one day will go back to her home country and join her sons and her elderly parents. Christmas came and passed but she couldn’t go to see her loved ones.

That particular day she left home early to be able to buy some clothes for her children and send to them. It was very slippery that day, she almost fell twice. Everything seemed too much – she finally made up her mind – she would go back to her country in two months. The extra two months would have given her a chance to save a little bit more money.

She never returned home that cold, slippery winter day. She was run over by a heavy truck while trying to cross the street on the pedestrian light.”

I don’t mean to make you sad. Really. My intention is to wake you up so you will SEE like I was forced to SEE.

Whatever we have is NOW. If we are unhappy now and hoping for happier future this is the greatest illusion possible.

Be happy today. You don’t need big things to be happy. Forgive someone you couldn’t forgive for the past 10 years, spend some time with your children, say your loved ones that you love them, smile at a stranger on the street, just stop and look around – no matter what you see – be it breathtaking beauty or a snowstorm with cold bones-penetrating wind – no matter what it is – it is YOUR CHOICE – enjoy it because this is what you have right now. This very precious moment is called life.

I wish you, my reader, a long life, filled with fulfillment of your wildest dreams; just make sure that you do not postpone your happiness and deep enjoyment of life till some unknown, illusionary time in the future.

BE HAPPY NOW!

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