Good, Bad or Whole: the Choice is Yours

I initially published this in a slightly modified form as a two-part article on the Ezinearticles website so don’t be surprised if you already read it on their site…

From the early childhood we were told what is good and what is bad. To avoid punishment and all the nasty things that come with it we had to hide some parts of ourselves that didn’t fit into the description of a “good person” with “good manners” as it is accepted in our society. These traits are usually so well hidden that we totally forget about their existence.

But the “bad” character traits didn’t disappear; instead they were pushed deep into our subconscious mind and started having a life of their own. They have a tremendous power of attracting people and situations in our lives that show us the qualities that we try to deny in ourselves.

This concept can be found in various teachings around the world in different forms from the Jungian principle of “shadow” to Hawaiian healing process called ho’oponopono.

By not embracing our whole self we waste the valuable life energy. We are trying to prove through our entire life that we are not who we really, in fact, are.

Denying parts of ourselves and not knowing who we really are is a direct way to self-destructive behaviors.

Do you feel you keep attracting “wrong” people into your life? They are brought into your life by your shadow to show you a quality that you have in yourself but venomously deny. People, situations in our life, our whole life the way it is right now are just mirrors that reflect back who we really are.

The process of embracing our “shadow”, the negative aspects of ourselves as part of ourselves helps to heal us, make us whole. It also stops the appearance of “wrong” people and circumstances in our lives; ones that are trying to show us a quality inside ourselves we needed to make a peace with.

We usually become interested in this process when patterns start repeating in our lives and we want to know why they happen.

When we start seeing patterns and asking questions then we are ready to meet with the well-forgotten part of ourselves, our shadow. This is not an easy process and it takes time to go through but the end result is the complete liberation; seeing our choices clearer, making peace with who we are, our past and our present, and moving quickly towards realization of our deepest desires.

Hawaiian healing process (ho’oponopono) is similar to the Jungian concept of “shadow”. It states that we are responsible for everything in our life, even the other people’s behavior. The mere acceptance and love of ourselves with all the positive and negative traits are enough to rectify the situation: people can change around us, circumstances change, our entire world changes merely by changing ourselves, our perception of the world.

In order “to change” the world around us we just need to say to ourselves: “I love you”, “I am sorry”, “Please forgive me”, “Thank you”. This kind of healing is conducted by a healer in Hawaii, Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len, with miraculous results.

When you have a strong negative emotional response about people around you look for the answers inside you.

So next time when you ask yourself : “Why all these idiots are in my life?” remember all the situations when you were acting like an idiot. Embrace the fact that you can also be an idiot from time to time. This way you will stop seeing “what’s wrong” with other people and stop judging them. You will also make a peace with a part of yourself you always denied.

Accepting the denied parts of yourself doesn’t mean going and hurting the people around. It is a way to free up the energy that was trapped when you were trying to be someone you are not; it is an incredible liberating experience; it is a way of allowing yourself to be who you are, to love and accept yourself fully and completely so you will be able to realize your full potential.

The same is true for “bad” people who for whatever traumatic reason denied the positive traits and buried them deeply into their psyche. This process will help them experience a tremendous transformation and make peace with their past; it will allow them to become whole again.

Everything starts with love. Love is the white light of all emotions. White light is the combination of all colors. Love is the sum of all emotions. Start loving and accepting yourself the way you are and then you will slowly uncover how to make peace with yourself, your past and your present; how to forgive and be forgiven; how to embrace all parts of yourslef, good and bad, let go of judgments and become whole again.

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